Get off the Hamster Wheel
When you are caught in the hamster wheel of needing approval
Your dreams die within you every time
- You second guess yourself
- Your intuition is cut off
- You don’t risk
- You are misunderstood
And you put yourself at the mercy of everyone that you give the power of approval to – to manipulate and control you.
The pain and penalty of not approving of yourself is high.
I know what it costs to live like that – the quiet fear that
- Someone is going to disapprove of me
- Or be disappointed in me for how or what I have or have not done
- The anxiety of having to meet others expectations for fear that they will criticize of me
Essentially there is no freedom without self-approval
“You can’t please everyone so you got to please yourself” as sang by Ricky Nelson in the song Garden Party:
But it’s all right now
I learned my lesson well
You see, ya can’t please everyone
So ya got to please yourself
This is very difficult for people who were raised as I was with a very different story.
Society, church and my mother taught me the glories of ‘martyrdom’. To always sacrifice self. It got me wanting approval for all that I gave – and the worst part was that I rarely received the approval that I craved.
People who need approval have a “needy” energy or vibration and I don’t know about you but I just want to avoid them. And they were me once. 🙂
Now I am not against giving or being generous and kind, in fact I am all for it. It is where the desire to give comes from. If I am giving because I want approval, feel guilty or manipulated – it will be from the wrong place. If I give because I want to and it feels right – then it is the right place.
Get off the hamster wheel, step back and decide what you really want. Decide whether you want to visit your mom or grandmother because you feel like you “should” or you really want to.
Giving from this “clean” energy will make you a much more pleasant person to be around and ironically you will start to receive that approval that you were always looking for.
If this dynamic is familiar to you and you would like to eliminated it – make an appointment with me for a free session. Coach Cora Whittington
